Consent as Sacred Contract — Luminous Tantra examination

Eleven questions. Nine of eleven passes, and you can take it again as often as you like.

Which distinction does Betty Martin draw that this chapter treats as central to consent?

Consent simply means the absence of an explicit spoken no Consent is about what you want, not what you will put up with Consent is a legal agreement that is signed before any contact Consent is given once and then covers the whole encounter
In the Wheel of Consent, what characterises the Serving quadrant?

I do something to you for your benefit I do something to you for my benefit You do something to me for my benefit You do something to me for your benefit
A person can give endlessly but never lets themselves receive. Where does the chapter locate this pattern?

Stuck in the Accepting quadrant Stuck in the Taking quadrant Stuck in the Serving quadrant Stuck in the Allowing quadrant
Which quadrant involves you doing something to me for your benefit, with the question of how much I am willing to offer?

Taking Allowing Accepting Serving
According to the chapter's reading of polyvagal theory, when can genuine consent occur?

During dorsal vagal calm, when the body is still During sympathetic activation, when attention is sharp Whenever a clear, explicit verbal yes has been given by both people Only when the ventral vagal social engagement system is active
Why does the chapter single out dorsal vagal shutdown as a particular risk?

It makes people noticeably more assertive about their boundaries It is the ideal nervous system state for deep tantric practice, at least in theory It can look like consent when someone is too shut down to object It increases sensitivity to pleasure and deepens connection
What does the chapter say about the establishment of safety in tantric practice?

It is not the preamble to the practice; it is the practice It matters much less than an advanced technique It can safely be skipped once both partners are experienced practitioners It is achieved simply by deciding to feel safe
What does trauma-informed tantra mean in this chapter?

Pushing steadily through triggers so that trauma is released more quickly Recognising dysregulation, offering real choice, and pacing within the window Practising only with partners who report having no history of trauma, though this can vary Avoiding any material that could possibly trigger a response of any kind
Two partners propose to 'just see where the energy takes us.' How does the chapter view this?

As a good way to build spontaneity and trust between the partners, at least in some cases As acceptable, provided that both partners are already experienced As the most authentic and spontaneous approach to tantric practice As an invitation to boundary violation; explicit agreements are needed
Why does the chapter call the sacred 'no' an essential spiritual capacity?

Refusal is a sign of advanced spiritual detachment and maturity, though this can vary A no should be used only when a partner is clearly at fault Saying no protects the practitioner from all forms of intimacy Without a genuine no, a yes means nothing; it becomes compliance
What is the stated purpose of the Body Scan of Desire?

Identifying which of your desires ought to be suppressed Preparing the body for partnered practice straight afterward Building interoceptive accuracy so consent rests on the body Relaxing the body so deeply that no desire is felt at all, though this can vary